This subject is very close and important to me. After my graduate degree I spent a little over a year counseling both victims and perpetrators of Domestic Violence (DV) / Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) and here’s what I learned:
- Intimate Partner Violence is not about anger, it is about power and control.
- There is no way for a victim to change the pattern of behavior of the abuser.
- Abusers spend a great deal of time and effort systematically breaking down their victim, this is done with so much intention that victims often don’t even realize they are being abused.
- IPV is not always physically violent. Nearly half of all men and women in the US report that they’ve experienced psychological aggression by their intimate partner in their lifetime.
- IPV impacts more than just women and children. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men 18 and older in the US have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
- Never tell a victim to “Just leave” the relationship. Victims of IPV are in the most danger while ending the relationship.
- IPV occurs in all relationship types, socioeconomic statuses, races, geographic locations, and demographics.